high sensitivity, PTSD, attachment

Google search string: "sensory defensiveness intrusive mother".

What Google turned up:
Sensory processing sensitivity and its relation to parental bonding, anxiety and depression:

Sensory processing sensitivity is a recently proposed construct referring to a tendency to process a variety of information more strongly and deeply than others. Although some research has found links between sensory processing sensitivity and psychological difficulties, highly sensitive people may not necessarily be predisposed to negative affect, but may be more sensitive to poor parenting.[...]Sensory processing sensitivity predicted both anxiety and depression above and beyond parental factors, indicating that it may be an independent risk factor. An interaction was found between sensory processing sensitivity and parental care when measuring depression. Highly sensitive people may be particularly sensitive to uncaring parents[...]

Post-traumatic stress in kids (bolds mine)

Koomar says flashbacks are automatic responses to a trauma trigger and are not something people with PTSD can turn off or muscle through. “Flashbacks are very powerful and it is important to realize that with PTSD flashbacks, the person is physiologically in that situation again.”

Koomar says managing flashbacks requires time and careful therapy. “This cannot, and should not, be viewed as other forms of anxiety might be,” Koomar says. “It is not at all a situation where the individual can ‘overcome it’ or ‘pull themselves up by their boot straps’ or be ‘resilient’ and just manage it. It is usually an incapacitating problem that needs a very careful and thoughtful therapeutic approach.”
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“Consistency is really important,”[...]It is also important to refrain from revisiting the trauma several times in the course of therapy. She says people need support that does not involve revisiting the trauma, for example, “activities that calm the nervous system, talking a walk, going to a funny movie, playing a game or other things that enable you to connect, but are not about the trauma they experienced.”

The Preemie Experiment: A community of people dedicated to the open discussion of the long term effects of prematurity (this one's more for my niece than for me - I was not a preemie - I don't think??)