Tuesday, December 28, 2010
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I quote others frequently and freely, and do my best to give full attribution. All the rest of the writing here is mine.
I hereby respectfully request: If you like something I've written enough to copy it for your own use, please give full attribution, either by providing a link back to the original writing on this site, or by citing Orts & Leavings as your source.
Thanks!
About Me
- grasshopper
- Grasshopper is, at the moment, still 'under construction' :-) She's trying to learn, and trying to keep a 'beginner's mind' while doing so (hence the moniker). She is also stubborn, willful, headstrong and ornery. She does things her own way. (She's also trying to give up 'being nice'.)
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- Lilith was the good one.
- sleeping in Sunday school
- Why men began the power and dominance thing
- Lilith: more word origins
- Very difficult for women to get needs met in this...
- The ‘coldness’ thing
- Love - possible origins of word?
- I will no longer ‘take care’ of people who
- People who give you a space to grow
- - and APPRECIATION! :-)
- Sadness, and *fear*
- Taking in, *absorbing*, the love I *have* received...
- NEED external warmth.
- ‘Chicken soup for the soul.’ (from a book title.)
- Getting cold
- Why is it considered a BURDEN
- It’s OKAY for me to be ANGRY.
- Learning how to express my needs without feeling g...
- needs that need meeting:
- I need to be treated gently and kindly.
- How about if, instead of raining on each other’s p...
- People who think you’re being a ‘know it all’
- You scratch my back
- The Star
- I wish everyone would speak their wants and needs ...
- “Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary,
- Cognitive dissonance clanging in my head
- We’ll get there when we *get* there! (Mr. Incredible)
- Lather, rinse, repeat. :-)
- Taking people for granted?
- Recognizing my *own* shame
- Saving face
- Temperance
- Object constancy?
- Just because I *can* help someone
- Ask vs Guess culture
- More puzzle pieces?
- What matters most.
- Leaping in to fill the ‘responsibility’ gap?
- Is loneliness a habit?
- Ambiguity.
- Indifference: Spiritual poison
- Id squink :-)
- Eyes of love :-)
- my wings weren't clipped, they were just furled
- 'defensive self-reliance'
- Tarot/torah? unspecified Google-istic musings, lin...
- I Ching Hexagram 21: Cutting Through
- Love
- Lovers
- it is RIGHT to protect yourself against people you...
- the Garden, part two
- Battling internalized cultural constructs and exte...
- Sun :-)
- ‘god’ as a substitute for LOVE.
- Clearing the mental? heart- al? :-) log jam.
- Punished for being smart? (tentative title, not su...
- Being held to a higher standard than everyone else.
- Healing the puer
- Why is puritanism so hard to get rid of? stigmata....
- Sorceress: Transformation
- Emperor
- Empress
- High Priestess
- Casting off the old fears
- People who say I 'think too much'?
- The Magus
- Angry: At a greedy world
- Anger: Either you're a) With me; b) Agin' me...
- not your burden
- The Fool
- good intentions
- Parents who seek their children’s approval
- Love seems to be mostly about
- Power of disapproval
- Today's card: Triumph :-)
- the Garden
- Take strength where you find it
- daughter mother power imbalance
- Trust your gut – brain dump
- My rules:
- clarity?
- I want my life to be filled with
- Question their assumptions
- all over the map, brain dump
- Empress & Prince of Wands: Rejuvenation and strength.
- Fury.
- Anger.
- Can you say, "Witch hunt"? Pshrynkologikal bull...
- pissed.
- trying not to be too cranky - or: Capitalism is a...
- The demons seem to be losing their power
- finally growing up?
- ovaries
- hungry
- Take smaller bites
- Sweetness and food cravings, reprise
- Today’s reading
- more words I like from astro site
- the Anchoret
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2 comments:
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There is a dynamic where a person who is talented is seen as things being easy.
If you look at what other people do they are not doing all that they can for other people and it does not bother them. They make a show of concern and yet little action.
The church is a good example. They do good works for a very small percentage of the time. Take any church building and put the effort into helping that is put into maintaining the church and do good and think what could be done.
Yes. I think people *do* take advantage. In fact, I know *I* have taken advantage - I've assumed that, for example, because my little brother was big and strong and more able to do tasks requiring muscles and stamina than I am, that he actually *liked* doing those things.
But at some point he pointed out that *everybody* asks him for help *all the time* because he's such a big guy. He gets tired of being taken for granted.
(in fact, I just heard a while back that he'd had back surgery - had a disk fused, ack! Noooo, little brother!Bad surgery, badsurgery! But - if to 'save face' and feel useful and valuable in the family and live up to everybody's - seeming? - expectations, you have to sacrifice your*self* in the process - well, maybe the body finally screams out in some way that a person simply *can't* ignore, so that they don't have to feel actively 'responsible' for letting others down? And so they save face. Dang, *this* one should be a post of its own, too. Going to go do that.
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