Trust your gut – brain dump

She takes NO responsibility for what happens
It’s *never* HER fault, though she’s adamant about never ‘blaming’ anyone

Double bind.

You *can’t* call her on her shit, because, to *her*, cruelty = anything that makes her uncomfortable.

Which makes it the responsibility of everyone but *her* to TAKE CARE OF HER,

while *she* remains conveniently OBLIVIOUS to her own needs and the DEMANDS she places on other people.

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Untrusting.

Always assumes the worst.

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Doing favors while denying the
NEED TO FEEL APPRECIATED

is a way to control your own emotions?

to keep from feeling the shame.

That’s why they won’t let me say thank you: It makes them aware of their

NEEDS

which they were taught were

SHAMEFUL.

Gah.

Controlling other people by NEVER ADMITTING TO *NEEDING* ANYTHING.

Just another power trip.