Object constancy?

if a person lacked object constancy as a child, how does this affect their *parenting*?

And how is the *child* so parented affected?

Does she, the parent, try to make her *child* into the ‘object’ that she lacked?

And if said child happens to be female, and *already* held to cultural constraints and expectations about her ‘caretaking’ abilities, does she get sucked in, by her very nature, her ‘empathy’, to being the *mother’s* caretaker?

Does the child so parented get her *own* needs met?

No – except where she is able to meet them her*self*, which is, of course, an insane thing to expect from *any* child, but particularly an infant.

And yet? This is *exactly* what was expected.

And taken for granted,
year after year,
throughout this child’s lifetime.

Until one day
she
GOT WISE

to the game

and said

STOP.

i WILL NOT DO THIS any more.

I do not LIKE green eggs and ham,

I will not EAT them,
Sam I am.

:-)