seek people who believe in *needs*.

ESCHEW people who *clearly* were brought up in families that taught shame and submission. It's not their *fault*, yes? but *you* are NOT responsible for their 'healing'. If they *ask*? Feel free. You have my 'permission' :-)

But it is not *necessary*. You are not *required* to do this just because you can.

Yes, there *is* the saying: "From each according to her ability, *to* each according to her need."

Well - but it's not a 'directive', is it? A command?

Prefer the Pirates' Code here - more of a *guideline* than a rule.

There - middle path found. Whew! Close call.

:-)