reaching out to emotionally unavailable people* is a *habit*

*yes, I hate the shrink BS, too. But it's *true*, nonetheless...

This doesn't mean I'm a bad person for reaching out to those who 're-create' the feelings I experienced as a child - no, it simply means I'm human, and a perfectly normal human, at that.

So: Letting go of any of the negative bullshit, I hereby give grassy 'permission' to do whatever she needs to do (or think, or feel, or whatever) to get through this.

There are no 'rules'.

There's only what works. Or: What Hamlet said (bold mine):

Why, then, 'tis none to you; for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so[...]