I have to nurture my SELF

in order to have something to give back.

This mother principle: I think it's true, though I scarcely think it's limited to women. I think men have it, and can give it, too. As can women play the father role, sometimes, when necessary: The strong, commanding, leading figure who gives you the strength to do what you need to do. I sort of don't like dividing them so much - I think the division is arbitrary and is mainly about reinforcing power differentials.