learning a new language.

When you grow up in a family that speaks the language of coersion, distrust, and one-upsmanship, you tend to 'learn' said language (whether you want to or not!) through a series of endless small (or large) cruelties, such as passive aggression, overt (and less so) bullying and outright shaming and humiliation.

In such circumstances, you haven't much chance of learning a *new* language

until you get OUT of there.

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I'm realizing I disagree with the 'no thinking' part of the previous card for 'totality' - when you live in a world where a *huge* part of the manipulation and trickery that you're dealing with has to do with

WORDS
and
HOW YOU THINK ABOUT THINGS,

you realize that the *only* way to escape the 'cage'?

is to get very, VERY clear on the ways in which they're continually FUCKING with

your MIND.

So there, zensters - put *that* in your 'peace' pipe.