vulnerability.

The unwillingness of *anybody* (male, female, whatever) to cop to vulnerability

is a POWER TRIP. Plain and simple. People who are vulnerable, or *make* themselves vulnerable? Are taking a risk.

Yes, I *know* this is 'Relationship 101' stuff. But after the 'power battle' with ♥ yesterday? I *had* to confirm this for myself. Because otherwise the

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE

would make me fucking *crazy*.


Double binds. They get you comin'

and goin'.

They want (and need) the exact same things you do. Except they won't admit it, because, God forbid! it might make them look 'lesser' in the eyes of any hypothetical (never mind *actual*) males in their mind's eye. That ol' voice in the head, once again.

Sigh.